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The Alchemy of Life: from Low Self Worth to Self Worth
Posted by Doctapaul in Healing, Life's Changes, Love, Personal, Pitfalls I've Fallen Into, Relationships, Self Development, Soundbytes of Wisdom on March 13, 2012
When you filter out, ignore or deny feelings of low self worth, you filter out self worth as well. Remember, the “wet and dry” of life. You can’t know one without the other. So life is about knowing self worth and its shadow, low-self worth. When you understand both and how to transmute the shadow into light, then you understand the alchemy of life.
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The Law of Reversibility – the What and How – more Powerful than the Law of Attraction
Posted by Doctapaul in Healing, Life's Changes, Love, Personal, Pitfalls I've Fallen Into, Relationships, Self Development, Soundbytes of Wisdom on February 28, 2012
An extract from
Defrag your Soul
- Image from http://exper.3drecursions.com/
The Law of Reversibility
If situations (events and people) can affect your emotional state, then inducing that same emotional state will manifest the same events and people into your life. Manifesting is not attracting. It’s creating something that’s already there, should you really want it. It requires focus, imagination and faith – in yourself.
(But you also need to know clearly what you are manifesting.)
About the Law of Duality
To know love, for example, you need to know not-love. So learning not-love serves a purpose. You are indirectly learning about love. And you won’t experience love wholly until you complete your learning. Here lies the rub of duality. This is how life works.
So…
Be clear that what you imagine will bring you what your soul seeks. And know that all the things that you experience – that you don’t want – serve a purpose.
The Law of Reversibility is far more powerful than the Law of Attraction. Rather than attract what you don’t have, you know you can have exactly what you want. It already exists in the field of unlimited possibilities. Manifesting requires practice, faith and imagination. Try it.
Imagination – takes place in your mind. It means place an image-in-ions (atoms). Your conscious mind passes the information (your emotional state) pertaining to that image to your unconscious mind. The unconscious mind then signals your DNA to send out the corresponding vibe to the universe.
DNA – is your transmitter to the universe. It transmits your signal of how you are feeling in the moment – your vibe. Its signal is governed by your unconscious mind.
Unconscious mind – passes the decisions made by the conscious mind to each and every body cell in your body. It also collects the vibes you pick up unknowingly and stores that information away too. It protects you from information that it feels you cannot cope with. All the information, good and bad, is stored away in your holographic Etheric Body. Each and every body cell is a fractal (the whole is contained in each fractal) of your Etheric Body’s hologram.
Body cell – Each and every body cell contains your whole life history, your memories, feelings, reactions and actions, everything that’s happened to you knowingly and unknowingly. It is placed in cellular memory.
Vibe – is the vibration that your DNA sends out to the universe. You can increase the power of this vibe by acting as if you already have what you seek.
Act as if – The brain executes the same neural pathways in the same way, whether you’re viewing real life situations or dreaming about them. The mind cannot tell the difference between the real world and an imaginary world. By acting as if you already have what you want in your imagination – you fool the mind into thinking the same. The conscious mind thus directs the unconscious mind to inform your DNA to send out a corresponding vibe. Over time, you attract what you want, as long as you keep faith in yourself and live your dream.
Soul – The body cells that constitute your physical body, inform your soul of the direction you seek to take. The soul cross references your intentions and behaviours with its quest – your life purpose. Soul then signals, via the mind, spirit to inform it of the new experiences it seeks to attract.
Spirit – is the force which manifests form: people things and events, to take you down your chosen life’s path, to your true self, your soul’s quest. But spirit can only manifest via the mind. The decision as to what to manifest is taken by the mind. The mind contains four things that sully spirit’s power to attract what your soul wants: guilt, anger, sadness and fear – the four seeds of karma.
Karma – you invoke a karmic response when you veer from the path of your chosen life’s journey. Karma tells you that you are allowing guilt, anger, sadness and fear to cloud your decisions; that you have gone astray.
False ego – is the keeper of guilt, anger, sadness and fear. It’s has a dual edged sword type of existence. It holds on to these negative emotions and attempts to control your mind with them. But also, it knows full and well that its purpose is to reveal the source of these negative emotions to you when the time is right – so that you can release them. In a paradoxical way, your false ego beckons your light. It knows when to submit to your light to shine within in its dark shadows. Each time you shine more light into your false ego’s shadows, you take a spiritual step on your chosen life’s journey – toward your true self.
Spiritual steps – are what you take when you allow and release all the guilt, anger, sadness and fear in your life that stops you from taking that step. Each step takes you closer to your true self.
True self – the purpose of your life is to find, open, become and express your true self. If you don’t know it already, you find the purpose of your life by following your passions. Once you find out what your purpose is, you open up it up to understand the implications it holds for you. Becoming your true self takes time. You have to find and open each spiritual step on the way. As you take each step, you become closer to your true self. You gain wisdom. You complete that step when you apply that wisdom to serve humankind. You shine. You express more of your true self – a deathless solar star.
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Character Defines the Results You Attract
Posted by Doctapaul in Astrology, Healing, Leadership, Life's Changes, Love, Personal, Relationships, Self Development, Selling, Soundbytes of Wisdom on February 22, 2012
“…all that happens is the result of character, the only manner in which the destiny can be changed is to change the character….. the chart of birth….is merely a map of character…..(and) can be markedly altered in any direction desired.”
CC Zain[1]
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[1] Ref: Chapter 4, Doctrine of Nativities from the book, Laws of Occultism, Inner Plane Theory and the Fundamentals of Psychic Phenomena by CC Zain, published by the Church of Light.
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The Return to Oneness
Posted by Doctapaul in Current Affairs & The Economy, Healing, Life's Changes, Personal, Pitfalls I've Fallen Into, Soundbytes of Wisdom, Visions and Dreams on January 6, 2012
Love is divine. Anything that is not love, is not divine.
- What if God does not judge man?
- What if God empowers man to judge himself?
Imagine, if you will, a world in which all your desires are fulfilled. Everything you want, you are given. You only have visualise its image in ions, that is, use your imagination. The image manifests as strongly, and as often, as you want. You, and everyone else in such a world, can achieve, or choose to strive to achieve, fulfilment. You have the empowerment of choice. Welcome to The Desire World, a stepping stone between heaven and earth.
Mankind does not have the language to describe heaven. We are restricted to the limits, language and syntax of the mind, and its imagination. The Desire World is thus a manifestation of heaven, in terms that the human mind can understand. In it, matter manifests ethereally as if it were real, just like in the world around us, if you can imagine such a paradox?
For instance, imagine you wanted to climb a tall mountain. The climb would be arduous and difficult. Somehow you have just enough strength, endurance, technique and wisdom to make the climb – every time and anytime you want to. Eventually you exhaust all the possible climbs this mountain offers – the steep, the long, the quick and the gentle.
In another instance, you desire a mountain that might or might not exceed your climbing capabilities. You seek a challenge that might take you beyond the limits you set yourself. Let us say that your attempt to climb the mountain fails. You halt and turn back to base camp. Or perhaps you take a tumble and fall. You spend a night in the Desire World’s virtual hospital that you have already created – just in case of such a fall. The next morning you awake, fully repaired and ready for a new climb. For in this Desire World, you do not need insurance. You can protect yourself against all eventualities. You simply go there in your imagination and desire it.
You live a life without fear, hurt, anger or guilt – because everything untoward can be averted or put right with the snap of an imaginary finger. You live a life free from all that is not love. All that exists, in the Desire World, is divine. You live, as close to heaven as you can, on earth. You can choose anything intellectual or recreational you are passionate about, for example, mathematics, crosswords, music, football, sex, stamp collecting or organic farming (to name the first few things that came into my head). The Desire World was created for “part” of you to play in safely.
That “part” of you was, and still is, an archangel archetype. It appreciates fully, the notions of desire and, abundance for all – through a sense of “oneness.” But, as wonderful as this heaven on earth is, it has its limitations. You realise that a challenge, such as the mountain, was not a challenge after all. Because you preset the conditions and safeguards to the climb. You enjoy the fulfilment of your passion unhindered. You climb, not climb or select an unknown result to your climb by choice.
Should you fail in your climb, there is no loss of personal pride through defeat because there is only “oneness” in heaven. Everyone in The Desire World is intrinsically linked to everyone else, through spirit. Everything desired is abundantly available to everyone through their inherent oneness. Until you choose the desire to create an emotion that had not existed before – “separateness.”
The Archangel Michael sought to extend the challenges of the Desire World by desiring separateness with tangible and emotional trophies for victory – and penalties for failure, in the form of physical and emotional pain. Pain required separateness. Because oneness means when one suffers, all suffer.
“What is (not) good for you, is (not) good for everyone.”
Thus Michael created the double bind of separateness and pain. Personal differences in identity and power (but not honour) would evolve between entities. Separateness evolved during the latter phases of, what we call, mankind’s Lemurian Age and early phases of the subsequent Atlantean Age. By desire, separateness of consciousness designed a boundary between the individual and the divine. So God empowered man to create in his own image, with his own imagination, with his own image in ions.
Mankind was empowered to create its own boundaries. It created the walled Garden of Eden, Mother Nature. Mankind empowered itself with the will and imagination to create and destroy but by its own volition, mankind did not empower itself to transgress or destroy nature itself. And God never withdrew mankind’s nous to tear down the garden walls, ask Pink Floyd! J, the ticket price to return from separateness to oneness.
Seperateness means me and not me, you and not you. Mankind experienced duality for the first time. But it did not lose its capacity to experience the harmony of opposites. We create warm water by creating the right mix of hot and cold water that feels temperate to our skin. We enjoy the warmth of the sun by being shielded by nature or clothing from overexposure. Mankind may have developed separateness but it never lost its capacity for temperance. Thus temperance is a stepping stone between separateness and oneness.
Mankind evolved separateness of consciousness and the physical body to house it. Separateness of consciousness gave the individual the choice to experience personal victory at the expense of others – and block out the pain and suffering of others that their victory created.
Winning and losing, victory and defeat, joy and suffering became a personal experience. The notion of winning and losing fostered pride. From pride evolved upset: hurt, fear, anger and, later on (see next paragraph), guilt – the karmic seeds of not love.
As mankind evolved to separateness, it became more and more detached from Love. Self proclaimed political and religious leaders labelled aspects of not-love as sins. They introduced the notion of good and bad. Mankind thus evolved the notion of guilt. Individuals, representing God or the good, would judge others for their good deeds and their sins. Oligarchs would get man to feel bad about himself, which is the first step we use to control one another’s minds. And when we control someone’s mind, we disempower them. This is not God’s way, of right divine, of love.
Your works and your devotion, faithfulness,
Your drudgery and patience under stress,
And that your final deeds shall far outshine
The first ones, when you rule by right divine.
From The Message to the Hierarchy of Helios, the sun king and regent of the fourth chakra, the heart.
In the beginning Love resided at the heart of everything, at the core, or coeur. The core of every human is love. The core of our solar system, the sun, is love. The sun shines its light on everything and everyone, regardless of race, colour, creed, species, belief system or behaviour. The light of our truth is there to be seen unless we choose to shield our eyes from it. We receive light, or love, everyday. But we do not all accept it. those who do not choose not love.
Not love has no place in the heart (whichmay i remind you, judges not; it empowers). Instead mankind evolved the brain, the data processing centre for the mind, which became the domicile of personal joy and suffering – and the willingness to allow others to suffer through one’s petty personal desires.
Mankind’s personal desires to achieve and be victorious over one another evolved in the head. But here lies the rub. Victory, be it a football game or a world war brings short lived self gratification and, by contrast, long term suffering. The victor’s pride and sense of achievement dwindles.
Mankind creates trophies to preserve the pride of victory, and stores them on a shelf in a cabinet, in a trophy room. Visit Manchester United or Liverpool football clubs. They have many such trophies. But they are all history or past tense. They personify a phrase I used to hear in IBM Sales Mangement meetings, “you are only as good as your next sale – or game, in football speak.”
The meaning and power of a trophy, like any fresh food in a greengrocer shop, has a shelf life. We yearn to keep that sense of achievement and pride but we cannot. We want that feeling of victory and pride again. So we return to theatre of football or war to regain it.
We attempt to make the past tense present by winning another trophy. If we do not. our pride suffers. We get upset. So much so, we may seek revenge to regain our lost pride.
We see such wars today, based on the false ideals of right, wrong and of divine retribution, where both sides claim “God is on our side.” The victors store their trophies in the form of land, people and large private bank accounts stored away in remote untraceable bank vaults. We want more. We fight more.
And through repeated violence a minority of us has developed a lust for killing. Such is the nature of the physical world we have evolved. Such is the nature of separateness of consciousness without oneness.
By desire and design, separateness always has winners and losers until – as happened in the Desire World – mankind says
“Enough! I’ve had enough of winning and losing.
I can only exert a limited amount of power.
I can only spend a limited amount of money.
I can only create so much suffering before I kill off those over whom I am victorious.
I can only suffer so much when I lose.
I have exhausted all the possibilities of winning and losing in the Physical World.
I now choose temperance.
I return to the harmony of opposites, the yin and yang, the will and imagination, to return to The Desire World.”
Mankind arrives at the end of the game. The time has come to gather all the pieces, the money, the cards and board of play – and put them all back in the box from whence they came. Mankind passes the game on to the next species who seek to play with it.
And this is where mankind finds itself today, at its endgame. It has two choices:
- Destroy itself
- Collect and organise all the pieces of ourselves to go back to oneness, only wiser, much wiser. Because we fully appreciate oneness for what it is, not separateness.
We are either at the beginning of the end, or the end of the beginning – the never, or return to, forever.
We can choose heaven on earth.
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The Law of Attraction Cannot Avoid the Law of Consequence
Posted by Doctapaul in Healing, Life's Changes, Personal, Pitfalls I've Fallen Into, Self Development, Soundbytes of Wisdom on November 23, 2011
“I, me, not me, us, we attract everything that happens to us, every change, happy and sad. There is no such thing as random.
Life is more than the pursuit of happiness. It’s about learning wholeness. We seek to find, become and express our true selves and thus find true happiness, from within, not without.
The more we know about ourselves, warts and all, the greater the wisdom we have to achieve what we set out to achieve. When we choose courage and willpower to act on that wisdom, the closer to true happiness we become.
So life is about a continuum of choices.
And life is about becoming.
It’s a very tough climb, at times.
Seek wisdom!”
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Words of Wisdom, Literally
Posted by Doctapaul in Coaching, Fun and Laughs, Leadership, Pitfalls I've Fallen Into, Quirky Ideas, Self Development, Soundbytes of Wisdom, Training & Development on October 12, 2011
“It’s so simple to be wise. Just think of something stupid to say and then don’t say it.”
Sam Levenson
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You’re Here to Create a Blank Canvas
Posted by Doctapaul in Fun and Laughs, Soundbytes of Wisdom, Visions and Dreams on October 11, 2011
Just keep looking at those 3 spots over the nose for 10 sec. Then raise your eyes upwards and stare at a blank wall for 20 seconds. Tell me what you see!
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A metaphor for past life legacies that still need to be cleaned up.
For example, if you were cruel in a past life you may well spend this life learning about not-cruelty. Overlay what you see after staring at the picture, on top of it – you end up with a clean slate. Get it?
Tis not about good and evil. Tis about what works and not works. Tis about nature. Tis about how everything evolves to the good, eventually. Tis about Light.
It may take some of us a lot longer to evolve than others. That’s why we have leaders to the Light in the world. They’re not here to hang around doing nothing – despite their patience being tried more than ever, right now.
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Hold a grudge, do you?
Posted by Doctapaul in Fun and Laughs, Healing, Life's Changes, Love, Personal, Quirky Ideas, Relationships, Self Development, Soundbytes of Wisdom on September 28, 2011
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Fearless versus “Fearlessness” – the difference between courage and wisdom
Posted by Doctapaul in Coaching, Healing, Leadership, Life's Changes, Love, Personal, Relationships, Self Development, Soundbytes of Wisdom, Training & Development on September 27, 2011
Should we ignore, or remain in denial about adverse situations or issues, we learn little if anything at all. The situations fester and pester more and more. We feel more pain or hurt. Should we continue to isolate ourselves from our feelings of hurt about what’s going on, we isolate ourselves from love, joy and fulfillment as well. This might need some explanation.
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We can’t learn if something is wet or not if we don’t know what not-wet, i.e. dry, is. Likewise, we are unable to be selective when we detach ourselves from negative emotions. Should we detach ourselves from sadness, we detach ourselves from not sadness, i.e. joy.
I recall when a relationship, I was in, broke up, not too long ago. I took myself to the pub at night, to inebriate myself from the fear and sadness of spending lonely evenings on my own. It took me 9 months before I readied myself to acknowledge the sadness, fear and start to move on life.
So here’s the curious dichotomy: when we ignore or deny fear, we deny not-fear – i.e. courage.
And it takes courage to deal with inner issues. In fact, all issues are inner issues. (When the relationship ended we both had issues to resolve but they were different issues.She had hers. I had mine. They were both proprietary.) The more courage we demonstrate to ourselves to deal with our inner issues the more we learn about them.
And when we learn more about a subject, we become wiser, we become expert and eventually we become a master. Not only are we a master at what’s going on, we become a master over our fears. We don’t hide from, or deny, them. We manage our fears. We control them. We become warriors. We become heroes. To some people, this ends the journey (“Hail, the all conquering hero!”). It does not. It ends a significant part of the journey and starts the next.
When we acknowledge our fear and gain mastery over it – we start to experience the stillness or void from which we base our actions. We start to realise that the issue, we faced, was attracted by and to our fear. We brought the issue, perhaps unknowingly and albeit unwantedly, on ourselves. The issue brought the fear to the surface so that we can erase that fear and evolve to the good.This is a fundamental rule to the game of life. (It might even be the only rule. I’m still working that one out.)
When the fear is fully out in the open in front of us, noone else,we see through it. We wise up to the habits and patterns inside of us that manifest that fear. We realise that those habits and patterns are only habits and patterns – and nothing more. They are not reality but responses we took on, usually in our early childhood, to adverse situations. And when we see their illusory nature, they disappear and so does the fear.
We begin to realise we had nothing to fear in the first place. At this stage we are not fearless, instead we experience fearlessness. We have transmuted our fearless state of mind into fearlessness.
The warrior or hero does not ignore or deny, but manages and controls, their fear. The master or magician, through the wisdom from insight, dissolves fear. Magicians are not brave. They have no need to be. They know fear for what it is – a very real-like illusion.
Fearlessness is a symptom of having achieved a spiritual step on our road to enlightenment. Only two types of people experience fearlessness – masters and fools.
When we become a master at one stage of our journey we instantly become a fool (or totally uninitiated) in the next stage. We become both master and fool at the same time.
We experience the two purposes of fearlessness:
- It tells us we’ve achieved mastery at one level
- It gives us the encouragement to tackle the next stage in our development.
Such is the computer game called “Life” – until we take the last step, of course.
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About loneliness….
Posted by Doctapaul in book, Healing, Life's Changes, Love, Personal, Relationships, Self Development, Soundbytes of Wisdom on August 26, 2011
Loneliness is something we feel when we are not happy with our own company.
Image by Said, Delta Papyrus Centre
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ps Focus on the image of the Pharoah Ankh-n-aton.
- Do you notice. like me, how the image seems to switch from left to right?
- Do you notice that image is looking at you? Cool huh?
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4 Warning Signs that Tell You “You’re not ready!”
Posted by Doctapaul in Business, Healing, Leadership, Life's Changes, Personal, Relationships, Self Development, Training & Development on August 18, 2011
Can you recall a time when you set off on a venture and ignored or didn’t spot early warning signs that things were probably not going to go to plan? Those things are much easier to see in hindsight when “the milk has been spilt.” At the outset, our emotional attachment to the outcome is high. Those emotions however can cloud our vision of what’s possibly about to go awry. We head down the path to disappointment. We can avoid the path to disappointment and setback, when we can read the “road-signs”.
Four warning signs that point to pending setback and disappointment (in a relationship, in business, in everyday life):
- You get upset easily; means your pride is hurt. When you get emotional quickly and easily, you give your power to those you get upset with. You are clouded with emotion. You cannot see out what to do. Others cannot see in. You isolate yourself.
- Less power leads to low self esteem. You don’t feel good about yourself. This leads to fear.
- Fear of further upset and isolation: in extreme cases you despair and turn to others and do their bidding – in order to maintain some form of connection. This is not love or friendship. It is….
- Mind control: someone else has you under their thumb. This is not love. It’s manipulation. You have no way out, until you find the courage to get out from under.
So we can start by acknowledging our vulnerabilities. Which means neither embrace or deny them. Instead learn from them. Accept them for what they are…. head trash that needs dealing with.
We can go it alone – but I’ve found solitude and contemplation takes a wee bit too long for me. Instead I seek help… either through a group or an “energy healer”.
When you ready yourself to learn, your teacher will appear -and vice versa.
And should you choose to do nothing about it? Prepare yourself.
Because…. ( a definition for not taking responsibility)
“When the rocket is lit, your backside will appear.”
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7 key traits, CEOs use to break through those wretched “Corporate Firewalls”
Posted by Doctapaul in Business, Leadership on August 16, 2011
I’ve seen a wide variety of researched estimates of the average tenure of a CEO. They range from 2.5 to 7+ years. I don’t know many private investors who are that patient. The last two CEOs I met, gave themselves considerably less time to make their mark; 1 year and 6 months respectively.
CEOs seem to have a honeymoon period of around 18 months. By the end of which, if things aren’t significantly better, their ‘marriage’ with the investors will probably not last.
A chat with Professor Colin Coulson Thomas prompted me to write this blog. Colin, author of Winning Companies:Winning People, is Chairman and fellow board member of Cotoco Ltd .
Here are the warning signs that CEOs fear most.
- Bad earnings news: the most likely and quickest sign of departure.
- Corporate programs don’t deliver: mergers and acquisitions “achieve 70% of their potential” at best.
- Failure to turnaround ailing sales quick enough.
- Change takes too long: “Corporate Firewalls” prevent people from getting it done. More on this later.
- Investors don’t understand: a CEO spends 40% of their time articulating strategy and some argue that’s not enough.
- Personal wealth at risk: e.g. missed deadlines can lead to private investors swallowing up the shareholding of a company
- Lack of innovation: playing it safe is no longer an option these days. Competitors and customers are moving too quickly.
- Talent gaps in performance: e.g. 20% of the salesforce bring in 80% of the revenue (and probably a much higher percentage of the profit).
- Conflict in the boardroom: too much time spent looking inwards leaves too little time to focus on the customer.
- Personal credibility at risk: any of the above means less likelihood of stepping up the ladder of success and/or lack of a legacy of note. These in turn can lead to…
- Personal health at risk: where the stressed mind-body connection can have serious consequences. I know of one CEO who, after missing targets set by investors, developed terrible eye problems because he didn’t like what he saw. Another developed disabling back pain through a lack of self esteem. Another who was deemed too rigid and inflexible developed problems with their joints.
Getting the strategy right will largely depend on the advice the CEO receives from those around them and experts (those they know who have done it before). This is called mentorship. And many stop there because it’s traditionally acceptable to have mentors.
But the CEO’s job is not just about getting it right. It’s about influencing people who don’t want to be influenced at first. If they were easily influenceable they’d have done what was needed long ago. This leads us to those constructs that get in the way – I call them….
Corporate Firewalls
With a select group of people, the CEO works out what tomorrow’s reality for their organisation will look like – and the strategy to get there. They find the first firewall just outside this group. Everyone on the inside ‘gets it’. Those on the outside don’t – certainly not the whole picture. Which means they miss perhaps key pieces to the corporate jigsaw. The more select the CEO’s inner group, the higher or tougher the ‘wall’ is to breach.
The wall filters out some of the cognition and understanding of what went on inside. It only takes a small amount to create ambiguity. Once ambiguity kicks it can start a trail as follows:
ambiguity –> confusion –> stress –> dysfunction.
This occurs especially in organisational cultures where ‘not understanding’ is perceived as a weakness. And when a ‘senior middle manager’ (say, from outside the group) doesn’t get it, they tend to do one of 4 things. They…
- Ask for clarity (’tis surprising how little often this happens)
- Put their head down, pay lip-service, and hope it will go away
- Push back (the larger the hierarchy the less egalitarian the culture)
- (Most dangerous of all) Make up the missing pieces of the jigsaw for themselves
The latter habit creates the most confusion for everyone in the value chain right through to the customer interface or the grass roots level of the organisation. For just behind this ‘grass roots’ operational level we observe a second firewall. Curiously, those at the ‘grass roots’ level seem to get the gist of CEO messages quite easily. It’s how those messages are translated into action where the confusion lies. And they are sometimes less prone to keeping quiet when things don’t add up. So the CEO has the challenge of involving those who will carry their message wholly and articulately into the organisation on their behalf.
7 Key Traits
CEOs require a mixed repertoire of personal strategies to influence influencers. In my personal research (of several hundred top performers in organisations around the globe) I’ve observed 7 key traits (or characteristics) in those who influence the best:
- Faith-in-Self – when there is no data (or time to gather it) to make big decisions.
- Passion – if you don’t radiate passion how can you expect others to shine?
- Sensibility – to see where others are at, where they come from and where they are headed, in their minds
- Articulate – to simplify complex concepts and make them compelling
- Curiosity – to explore what’s going on below the surface of things
- Networker – it’s not what you know it’s who you go to, to find and share wisdom to get things done
- Composure – under pressure or facing the unknown
We demonstrate traits. They describe how we come across to others. We do not learn them in a classroom through conventional training. We nurture traits. A good Executive Coach accelerates the process of how a CEO nurtures winning traits and behaviours (that may feel uncomfortable at first) – to forge a strategic personal-identity with those people whom they do not have personal contact with. If these winning traits were purely intellectual or comfortable they wouldn’t need a coach – would they? With this in mind, we can see the difference between mentoring and coaching.
We get what we project.
CEOs get people to copy what they project. The onus they face: to transfer the above traits and characteristics to others. Some CEOs see coaching as something for other people with problems. They are part right. It is. But the problems I talk about are all associated with an inability to influence those people who will block/thwart even the best thought out plans. CEOs might not even know what those that hinder are up to – because they are hidden behind a Corporate Firewall.
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The Fear of Fear
Posted by Doctapaul in Business, Healing, Leadership, Personal, Pitfalls I've Fallen Into, Relationships, Self Development on August 16, 2011
Fear is a strong word. It can be an uncomfortable word. If we over-embrace fear, we end up doing nothing about it. Paradoxically the fear of fear; not talking about fear, not thinking about fear can lead to….. denial – of the conscious and unconscious fears (“let’s not go there”) that hold us back.
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So it’s about creating a structure and process where we can acknowledge our fears and vulnerabilities. When we deny fear, we deny our Truth. Research shows, living our Truth is the key to creating a healthy level of self worth.
This presents a challenge to the fiefdoms in politics and business in this “winner takes all” world we’ve created. A world where one man’s vulnerabilities and mistakes are seized by another for their own gain.
It points to a new world where property, wealth and “ownership” is based on equitable negotiation and usage, not forfeiture. Where one serves all as part of our social contract. Leaders do the leading, rulers do the ruling, Kings and Queens do the king-ing or queen-ing. They are jobs with reponsibilities and accountabilities, not titles. Ah-ha – I feel a whole new blog coming on.
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