A subset of an exercise, on building outcomes for a relationship, from my book…
Pick a relationship you’re in, business or personal…
Bring into focus how your relationship has been of late. Answer and write down the answers to the following questions and responses to instructions…
- Give yourself a score of 0 to 10, out of 10, for level of satisfaction with the relationship where 10 equates to 100% – “The relationship is exactly how I want it to be”, 5 equates to “Half and half” or “So so”, 0 equates to “Not at all” and so on.
- What has been your input to making the relationship how you want it to be?
- Give yourself a score of 0 to 10, out of 10, for your level of commitment to the relationship where 10 equates to 100%, 5 equates to 50%, 0 equates to nothing at all and so on.
- Track your level of commitment to the relationship on a weekly basis.
You raise your level of commitment by raising how much (energy) you give to and receive from the relationship materially, mentally, emotionally and spiritually – as long as what you give or receive is not borne of anger, hurt, shame or fear.
The relationship is in balance when you receive the same amount of ‘energy’ as you give.
The relationship gets to exactly where both parties want it to be when both rate their satisfaction with it as a ‘10’. A ‘10 all round’ is where both parties are fully committed to the relationship, they both give and receive 100% which means they are both 100% satisfied.
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